Do you find yourself confident in most areas of your life, but when it comes to money you run to a corner a hide? You aren’t alone in this!
This week’s guest Garrett Philbin provides some insanely good insights on how you can win the money battle.
What You’ll Learn In Today’s Episode:
- The specific imprint his parent’s money story left on his own
- How he went from working in the music industry to becoming a financial coach
- 4 exercises you can do to help you dive deeper into your money story
- The significance of focusing on what you have control over and why it matters
Garrett’s Money Story
Growing up, Garrett’s parents never had much money, but they always had enough. Garrett’s father was a community college chemistry professor. During his younger years, Garrett’s father was one of eight children. His father passed away during his thirteenth year, leaving him to help with the care of his younger siblings. As a result, Garrett’s father brought the mentality to never spend money on anything but the essentials to his family.
Garrett’s parents would commonly balance their checkbooks at the dinner table, which inspired open conversations about money. Garrett learnt much about mortgages and bank accounts. Right from the beginning, Garrett was given tools on how to spend money wisely, starting with a budget at the age of ten.
Before Financial Counseling
In college, Garrett studied music business as a major. After he graduated, Garrett volunteered full time for two years as a mentor to students with troubled backgrounds. Later, his path brought him to New York to work in the music business. Garrett quickly learnt he did not enjoy the industry, and decided to open his own music production company with some friends from college. Even with his own company, Garrett was still unhappy, and it wasn’t until a conversation five years later that Garrett’s life changed. While discussing his troubles, one of the co-founders of his music company mentioned financial counselling as a possible career for Garrett. With his mind swimming with the possibilities as a financial counsellor, Garrett went home and wrote pages of ways he could help others with their money. That was the moment Garrett realized that, for the first time in his adult life, he had passion for something.
Common Patterns Seen in Women
During his career as a financial counsellor, Garrett has noticed similar patterns concerning women. He states that more often than not, women have a common belief that they aren’t good enough, or should not be good enough, to do well with money. Most of the issues faced by his clients are results of other non-money related issues. In order to help these women overcome their lack of confidence, Garrett takes them through their own money stories, and gives them exercises to work on. These exercises are often picked based on his clients’ personality and situation.
- Journaling. One of the most common forms of healing Garrett uses is journaling. He asks his clients to write down their daily money wins. After a time, he asks them to revise their accomplishments and realize their progress. On his podcast, his co-host also asks listeners to do the same exercise.
- Writing a letter from your 80 year old self to your current self. In this letter, Garrett asks his clients to write what they did to make their life what they wanted it to be. This exercise reminds his clients of their goals and dreams so they might remember to pursue them.
- The 3 questions from George Kinder. In this exercise, Garrett tells his clients to ask themselves the three questions from George Kinder and record their first thoughts. The three questions are:
– Imagine if you were financially secure. How would that feel, and how would you live your life?
– Now imagine you are given 10-12 years to live. You won’t get sick, but you don’t know when you will die. How would you live your life then?
– The doctor tells you you have 24hrs to live. What are your first thoughts? Who did you wish you’d become?
Garrett’s View on the Wage Gap
One of the most notable statistics regarding the wage gap is that women of colour make 50-60¢ to the dollar of white men. The money gap is real. Money is power, so it has been seen as a bad thing, since people in power haven’t used it in the best ways. Garrett states that a good place to start towards the goal of pay equality is feeling more in control of yourself. If you take care and work on the money part (what you have control over), then you can help others. You become a better advocate when you have more financial confidence.
Financial confidence leads to self confidence, which leads to power. In the workplace, confident, outspoken women are seen as bossy. There are so many roadblocks for women (especially concerning how they should and should not act) in order to bridge the wage gap. We need to acknowledge that is how it is. People in power need to make the decision to not put the pressure on the ones doing the work.
Resources From This Episode:
Be Awesome Not Broke (Garrett’s site)
Garrett’s podcast he co-hosts: Beyond the Dollar
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